The Three Phases
Do your thing. Be stubborn if that suits you. Make mistakes, learn great life lessons, and reinvent yourself over and over again. Be free. Trust in the Divine – That’s when real magic begins to happen.
Father’s Day
We know the parental alienation drill – It’s not personal; They are the ones being hurt; You have to keep showing them how much you love them no matter how mean they are in return. At what point do you say enough and step away from the hostility?
This “Step-Mom” Has Personal Boundaries – FIRM ones
The healthier and more balanced I am, the more I have to offer Dear Alexa. That includes self-care, living my most fulfilling life no matter what our circumstances, and (a resounding YES) enforcing personal boundaries.
How and when parental alienation started
Dear Alexa’s wings have been clipped under the guise of total freedom… and there is nothing her loving father or I can do about it.
When Healthy & Happy is Threatening
This healthy, happy, and beautiful individual was coming into her own and doing her own thing – Independence. Rather than embracing this amazing person Dear Alexa was becoming, mom successfully squashed her happiness.
Step Away from the Cocoa Puffs
You cannot change the alienation experience. You can only take tender loving care of yourself, so you are the healthy and happy parent your children return to.
We’ve Officially Done “Everything Possible”
Is admitting “defeat” actually defeat if it ends a bloody battle?
How can you heal when you don’t know what you’re healing from?
Dropping the illusion that we can fix it, free’s us to let this experience unfold. This non-attachment allows us to move past the fear of being hated and into a far more empowered space of understanding the tender truth behind the façade of hate.
Something’s Gotta Give
Dear Karma – Thank you for the little reminder that while the truth may not have set us free in court, it will ultimately set Dear Alexa free. And that’s all that really matters.
When Nuclear is the Only Option
At what point do we finally admit to ourselves that mom has already escalated matters to a point where we question our personal safety?
Parental Alienation Hard Truth #4 – Why You Need to RISE and BE the Light that Guides Your Children Home
As painful as the alienation experience is, I believe reconnection is the natural course. Showing Dear Alexa that love is unconditional and light is infinite is how her father and I have been able to RISE.
Parental Alienation Hard Truth #3 – Making Bad Decisions for a Higher Good
Stepping back and allowing some seriously bad “sans parenting” was painful – but necessary to break the “dad’s entirely to blame” united front.