Conversations, Thoughts & Perspectives
Conversations, Thoughts & Perspectives
Dear Alexa is better off by our stepping back and allowing truth to unfold. We make every effort to disengage from mom so this situation can calm down. This gives Dear Alexa a much-needed break to rediscover her own feelings and thoughts about who Dad is.
We’ve released far more than we’re comfortable with. We’ve allowed difficult experiences to unfold naturally even knowing the full impact and consequences. From this space of calm that we’ve created, the truth is slowly rising.
Even if a child wrapped up in alienation tactics understands their situation, most likely, they have no ability to influence or change the situation. They can’t control their parents or their situation, but they can decide what they say or don’t say.
I hold a space of loving compassion for any parent who has had to make the impossible choice to not reach out because of the resulting emotional abuse inflicted on the children by an alienating parent.
A lengthy legal battle is definitely not the way to go. It would actually destroy all the positive progress we’ve been seeing.
Reconnection is not only possible – Your relationship can be better than ever – IF you handle the disconnect in a positive way.
We know how horrible it would be to have Dear Alexa leave and not communicate for over a year – We know because we experienced it.
Dear Birth Mother – I wish you nothing but happiness. May you find closure and release so that you may move on with your life. May you create and attract from a positive space so that you may experience love and connection.
To now know that you are already recognizing alienation tactics and learning how to set healthy personal boundaries at the tender age of 14 makes my heart sing!
Allowing kids to fail doesn’t mean we’re bad parents. It means we’re showing them that they have every resource available within themselves to pick themselves up and go again.
Until we are able to reconnect more fully, we await these lovely glimpses of the amazing person you are discovering.
Owning our stuff is the greatest opportunity for personal growth and reclaiming our personal power
