WARNING – This is rather dark. Take a “pass” if you need my usual, hopeful, rosey perspective of life. Writing is my form of self-therapy and today I’m writing my truth. Dear Alexa – Should you stumble across this someday, just know that as much as you are hurting right now, so are we.
It has been a tough few months… make that two years. But the past few months have felt like everything is accelerating and escalating. At a time when we should be focusing on rebuilding our business (that’s a whole other weight on our shoulders), we are quite literally putting in over 30 hours per week just trying to get Dear Alexa proper healthcare and an education.
I’m faced with some pretty brutal truths:
She will never stop.
This costs mom nothing and costs us everything – including further destroying Dad’s relationship with Dear Alexa. She’s so angry and vengeful, there’s far more to this. She enjoys the harm she inflicts and will stop at nothing except complete destruction… But then again, that’s underestimating her.
Dear Alexa – I have to believe that you were born to this mother for a reason. To heal, grow, and become from. This is your experience to have – for both you and your mom. You may be the strength mom needs to heal her own past so she can move on. Your awakening to the truth will someday set you free.
Therapy has been weaponized.
Dad’s therapy session with Dear Alexa this week was the last. Dear Alexa was clearly coached and shared everything with her mom just so they could use it against this loving Dad. The therapist quit because he “no longer feels safe” from mom’s legal threats and her “weaponizing therapy.”
Dear Alexa – At least your Dad got to set a few things straight. This is not abandonment as your mom attempts to convince you and the court – That’s your mom’s trauma. And it’s not a fight over custody, it’s a fight for your basic health and education rights. You know the prescription your doctor prescribed nearly a year ago and now necessary infusion prescribed over a month ago that still haven’t been fulfilled or scheduled? That’s just one of your rights Dad is fighting for.
The legal system has failed us – Entirely.
We have been out lawyered every step of the way, lies have prevailed over documented facts, and dragging this out in court for years isn’t healthy for anyone, least of all Dear Alexa. The mom wants to keep us in court for several reasons – destroy us financially, unload her anger and hostilities, and maintain a triangulated bond with Dear Alexa against Dad.
Dear Alexa – Your Dad just needs to know that he’s done absolutely everything possible for your health and wellbeing.
Something’s gotta give.
We’re committed through July and then we need to let go. Mom will take this as a MASSIVE win on all fronts and I’m hopeful it will satisfy her ego’s need to destroy us.
Dear Alexa – Never mistake letting go with giving up. Sometimes you need to disengage from the battle so things can calm down for your wellbeing.
Dear Dear Alexa’s Mom – You win. We cede. You’ve successfully cut your daughter’s father out of her life much like your own mom did to you. You’ve caused us emotional grief and financial distress. Please, take these “wins” and refocus all that energy on something positive that might bring you love and happiness.
Share that love and happiness with Dear Alexa.
As for us, we tucked a few key things in publicly accessible court documents for the day when Dear Alexa is ready to discover the truth:
- Video and written proof of domestic violence and abuse of badge.
- Proof of medical, mental health, and educational neglect.
- Proof of perjury and contempt of court.
- Professional diagnoses of triangulation and alienation.
It’s important to note that we are fully aware that this means nothing, and the court will do nothing. But it does serve as a paper trail when Dear Alexa starts piecing together the real story. And, like good Karma, while mom remains focused on winning at all costs, she is causing herself harm by limiting her future career options.
Dear Karma – Thank you for the little reminder that while the truth may not have set us free in court, it will ultimately set Dear Alexa free.
And that’s all that really matters.
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