I stumbled across a Substack writer yesterday who vacated her entire life, moved abroad, and has been living out of her suitcase for the past two years. It was crazy nostalgic. The challenges and disconnect – The creativity and simplicity – That pivotal moment (around year two) when this nomad life deeply resonates a sense of “home.”
I lived this life for five years. Daily conversations with my dear friend the Ocean. Writing my way through healing my heart and soul. Discovering human connection in beautifully unexpected ways. Becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be.
The experience was pure alchemy.
Dear Alexa – This alchemy is yours when you’re ready to transform this dark experience into light. Just know that the first step might be a bit excruciating. Yes, I’m downplaying it – It absolutely will be excruciating. No one really considers what needs to fall apart to become anew.
The comfortable (or not-so-comfortable) rut that needs to be upheaved… habits that needs to be broken… relationships that need to be redefined. The challenge is that not many people are willing to weather temporary discomfort to make way for transformation.
But you, Dear Alexa, were born brave.
Your Dad and I have every confidence that you are courageous enough to transform this experience into something beautiful. The first step will be uncomfortable, but it’s not unsurmountable. It will forever change who you are – In a amazing ways. The “it was totally worth it” sense of independence will far outweigh this initial discomfort.
In a couple of weeks, there’s a chance that the court may award a chunk of uninterrupted time (weeks, maybe months) to reconnect with Dad*. The transition will be a bit uncomfortable at first – It’s been over two and a half years since you’ve lived with us. But I hope you can embrace this amazing opportunity before you – An opportunity to vacate your life as you know it and reinvent anew. How I would have loved having this opportunity at your age! A moment of pure potential (and pure upheaval) where you are free to redefine every single thing about yourself.
* UPDATE – While the Court ordered three, uninterrupted, weeks for Dear Alexa to spend time with Dad, he got a total of 2.5 days that were full of text interruptions. Mom refused to sign the court order, packed this time with doctor’s and therapist appointments, signed up for dog training, and did anything she could think of to block Dear Alexa from spending quality time with her Dad.
We can provide an opportunity for alchemy; however, the choice is ultimately yours.
Whatever choice you’re ready to make, just know that it’s all good. Something you may not know about me and your amazing Dad is that we naturally…
Rise & Shine On
I coined this “motto” while your Dad and I were faced with several large challenges about a year ago. We dropped the “motto” label when we realized it’s who we are. We RISE above dark challenges. We are both so incredibly uncomfortable when we feel stuck in a dark head-space that it’s our natural response to rise. It’s also an active choice we make to focus on everything positive in our life – Radical Gratitude.
We SHINE when we live within our light. SHINE ON – While sharing light infused solutions and ideas with others. Shine On deflects – protecting us from those who do harm; and attracts – aligning us with the right people and ideas to create amazing opportunities benefitting all.
So no matter what choice you make, we will always create loving opportunities for you to transform this dark experience and become the light.
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