We’ve shared everything “Dear Alexa” with the hope of connecting with you. However, I’m realizing that we’ve also been holding back on a few things. Particularly what your Dad and I have been experiencing over the past year. We haven’t shared particular details for a few reasons –
1) You have your own experience to focus on – Broadening your teenage horizons, growing into the amazing person you are becoming, and learning how to have a close and loving relationship with both your parents.
In case this healthy boundary line has been blurred, I’ll clarify – Emotionally mature parents do NOT unload on their kids. That includes:
- Not sharing details about ongoing legal matters.
- Not sharing details about the conflicts and/or complaints from your parents’ former marriage.
- Not making derogatory statements about a parent – whether shared directly with you or via adult conversations that you can overhear.
- Not demanding loyalty by making you pick a side.
- Not manipulating or using guilt trips to control you.
- Not invading your privacy.
Good parents want what’s best for you and your well-being.
That includes giving you love, support, and independence so you feel confident exploring your expanding world knowing you’re always taken care of.
2) In the wrong hands, details are used against us – Whether its mom reading your texts or extracting information, or you are sharing information, details get twisted beyond recognition and used against us. We’ve had to keep a couple of things to ourselves, so it doesn’t impact our ability to settle legal matters – which is in all our best interest.
Just know that the information we share is yours to do with whatever you like. We would never ask you to withhold information, despite any challenges we’ve faced. And no, we won’t be unloading those challenges on you per #1 above. We’ve held back for your benefit. For the unloading on us is nothing compared to what you experience.
3. We’ve got this! – Despite the magnitude of what’s been going on, we have totally got this. When our world fell apart, we didn’t dwell or plot revenge. We got busy and rose above. We jumped into building a new business venture, which has quickly turned into several ventures.
That’s right, your Dad and I are pretty bad a##! Our positive FOCUS and efforts have attracted amazing opportunities. We are attracting miracles! All so we can create beautiful options for you when you’re ready.
If I could give you one solid piece of advice, it would be to focus on who you want to BE and what you want to CREATE in your life.
