One of my favorite authors redefined failure and rejection as “loving protection” from the Universe preventing us from going down the wrong path. A little (or not so little) nudge that what we’re currently desiring and pursuing just may not be the thing that will make us happiest. That, perhaps, the very thing that is falling apart in our life is simply making room for something far better.
I’ve been reminiscing over some of my most epic failures lately. Divorce and the total collapse of that prior life stands firmest in my mind. But was it really a failure per se? Sure, there were lots of bumps and bruises along the way and even a time when I questioned my ability to rebuild anew. However, the experience also holds such incredible healing and growth that I could hardly slap a big neon “FAILURE” label on it.
It was through this experience of total loss that I became whole.
Nicely done “failure”… nicely done…
I’d love to teach you that holding loosely to our dreams and desires is the key. Let your dreams grow into something unexpected and release them go when they no longer make your heart sing. Trust that everything is unfolding in mysteriously marvelous ways.
How does that relate at 13-years old?
- Friendships come and go – let them. No hard breakups or animosity necessary. They may come back into your life under better terms or they may not. Either way, it’s ok, there’s plenty more where good friends come from.
- Failure is not something to avoid or be ashamed of – It’s simply how we learn and grow. You’ll never do everything perfectly the first time – Don’t let that stop you from doing something new.
- Drop the labels. I know you’re in self-discovery mode, but don’t let anyone (yourself included) drop a firm label of who you are and what you can do with your life. Life is fluid –
You can change and become whoever you want anytime you want.
- Welcome rejection – Those who walk away don’t deserve space in your wonderful life.
- Fail gloriously! That means you’re putting yourself out there, taking risks, and being courageous.
Just know your Dad and I are always here to lift and support you. And…
