You have heard me say this time after time. Strange enough, it is not in “My Rules.” It should be. The meaning is quite simple…. Sometimes we are are dealt a bad hand, a bad situation. What is important is that we do not make that bad situation worse. It can be easy to do. We often over react or have a knee-jerk reaction which can make a bad situation even worse.
You may be asking ‘why is Dad telling me this?’ Simply put, right now I am in a super bad situation with you. It is not you. It is not me. It is the situation. And I refuse to make this bad situation, worse.
You will one day learn that your mom thinks in terms of wins and losses. And your mom likes to win….at any cost. Right now you are in the middle of a fight your mom wants to have with me – Where she will ensure that she wins at any cost. She wants to hurt me, not you. It is important that you know that.
Unfortunately, you are a weapon that your mom uses to hurt me. Her influencing you to be angry with me, to not spend time with me, and to not talk to me causes me great pain. Your mom knows it, and disgustingly, likes it. If I put up a fight, she will do all she can to fight back and win. And hurting you just becomes another bad consequence of inflicting hurt on me.
I refuse to think this way and will never behave this way. Especially when it comes to family. So, at this time, I will not be engaging in your mom’s brutal battle – I am choosing to not make a bad situation worse.
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